Before Mass:
This morning we are privileged to hear the first
words Jesus utters in the Gospel. “Why did you look for me? Did you not know that I must be in my
Father’s house?” These words were
originally written in Greek – and that last phrase could just as easily be translated
as “I must be about my Father’s business”.
It’s just a small tweak of the meaning, but keep that in mind as you
listen and try to figure out Why He responded the way he did and more
importantly – what He’s trying to tell YOU today.
I’m always struck by
how Jesus responds to people in the Gospel.
To OUR ears it sounds dis-respectful.
Like today – ‘why did you look for me?
Did you not know I must be in my Father’s house?’ Sounds a little like he’s too big for his
britches, if you ask me!… I would think a sincere apology would be in
order. But who am I to question what
JESUS said? There MUST be a message for
us or it wouldn’t have been recorded in scripture. I have a story which might help us think a
little differently about that response.
Jerry’s 4 year old
daughter Susie was out playing in the mud puddles one day and making mud
pancakes. Jerry was babysitting that day, and he KNEW his wife would be
sooo upset that he let her play in the mud.
Yeah – she was making a huge mess of her clothes, but she was SOO cute
and having so much fun. Jerry went in to grab a camera to capture the
moment… but when he came back, Susie was gone! Where could she be?
Did she cross the road? Did she go to the neighbor’s house? Did she
go inside? He panicked… running
around calling her name – searched the bedroom, the playroom, the TV room, all
the neighbor’s houses. Even the
neighbors joined the search. Giving up, Jerry ran back inside to call the
police when he heard some singing coming from the bathroom… bursting through
the door, he saw Susie sitting in the bath tub playing with her rubber
duckie… The first thing out of his mouth was THANK GOD… which was quickly
followed by words that sounded harsher than he wanted… WHERE did you go? We were looking all over for you?!!!
And Susie, sensing how upset he was, started to cry as she said, “But – I was
all muddy and I knew mommy wouldn’t like it so came to get a bath…I thought you
KNEW I had to take a bath”.
I think Susie’s
response gives us a clue about Jesus’ response to Mary and Joseph when they
found him in the temple: He likely was surprised by their
reactions. “Why did you look for
me? Didn’t you know…?” From HIS perspective, it should have been
quite OBVIOUS to them where He would be found.
They shouldn’t have been surprised to find him in Church.
So – what’s the bigger
message? How can we find our own story
in these readings?
Here is the question
for each person here: Have YOU ever lost
Jesus? We might have surrounded ourselves with so many people, like the
caravan in the Gospel, so maybe we haven't even REALIZED Jesus is missing from
our lives. When troubles hit – When sorrow, pain, and worry envelop us, we
suddenly realize we’ve left him behind somewhere. We might scurry around all over town like
Mary and Joseph searching for Jesus...and then, as a last resort, we go the
Church. THIS is where we find him...here...in the Father's House...in
church... with a community of believers. Yeah, we can find him WHEREVER
God's will is being done, but the PRIMARY place to find Jesus is in the
Father’s house.
The second most-likely
place to find Jesus is at home in our Families. Home is where we learn
how to live as Christians. You may remember just a couple of months ago a
Synod was held – basically a meeting of Bishops with the Pope – and the topic
was the Family. Here are a couple quotes I pulled from their document:
the family is a “school of love,” a “school of communion,” and a
“gymnasium for relationships,” that is, the privileged place to learn to build
meaningful relationships which help a person develop a capacity for giving
one’s self. ...the family can be considered as the “basic school of humanity,”
and thus regarded as irreplaceable.
As with just about any
Church document, it’s kinda wordy… but packed with meaning. What’s all that mean? The family is
where we learn to Love and what it means to be Loved. It is a place where
we learn ‘communion’… how to live together. That third phrase is
interesting.. the family is a ‘gymnasium for relationships’…what do we go to a
gym for? To work out…to practice… to play the game. The
Family is where we practice giving of ourselves..we practice forgiving…we
work-out our problems….we practice communication…we exercise our communication
skills… we practice being self-less… in essence – we learn how to Love.
The family is also the
breeding ground for Vocations. This is where the first reading connects
with the Gospel. Notice that Hannah
dedicated Samuel to God very early in life.
She took him to the temple and left him there to be raised by the
priests and temple handmaids. That seems
a bit extreme to our modern culture… We normally don’t decide FOR our kids what
they should be when they get older – we let them decide. However, Families still have a HUGE impact on
whether a young person will consider a priestly or religious vocation.
On one hand, I know
families who pray together - and I mean teens too - praying the rosary together
daily or weekly. They pray before meals - they go to Mass together - go
to Reconciliation. These people have trained their children to view the
Sacraments of the Church as 'normal'… that doesn't match what the rest of
society thinks is normal. These kids are
reminded to ask GOD what HE wants them to do with their life. They are encouraged to seek a vocation
to the priesthood or religious life.
On the other hand, I
also know folks - one lady in particular is a very close friend and a very
strong Catholic - who purposely DISCOURAGED her son from following a calling to
the priesthood. Why? She wants grandkids. Really? This
statement actually worries me… if every parent wants grandkids – and few
families have more than one son anymore… then we won’t have ANY parents
encouraging their sons to consider a vocation.
How CAN we encourage
vocations?
Ø First - By changing
the question we ask our youth. Instead
of ‘what do you want to be when you grow up’, let’s ask, ‘what is God calling
YOU to do?’ Start asking the question
early in life, so it will become just a normal question they ask themselves.
Ø Take them to church… I
don’t mean to LEAVE them at church, like Hannah did. I don’t think Fr. Eugene wants a bunch of
kids running around the Rectory. Taking the family to church shows the youth
how important this is to you.
Ø You know, when I was
young I used to get frustrated by babies and toddlers who would make noise in
church… but somewhere along the line somebody reminded me that noisy babies are
a sign that our parish is still growing – rather than just being a church for
the old people.
Ø Another way to
encourage vocations is to Show respect for the priest. Speak kindly about Father in front of the
kids. Do things as a family to thank
Father for all he does – like – I can remember we would have our parish priest
over for dinner often. What a great way
for us kids to get to know these priests as ‘real people’.
I realize there are
other reasons parents don’t want their kids to be a Priest – but most of us
involved in Ministry would agree that it is the most fulfilling way to
live. Father touches SO many lives on a
personal level – AND – he has been ordained to feed us the Body and Blood of
Jesus. I personally can’t think of
anything I’d rather my son would do.
If we would dedicate
our children to God as Hannah did in the first reading... if we would set the
example for them… if we guide them to always seek what GOD wants them to do… we
shouldn’t be surprised if we find them in church,… doing our Father’s business.